you have every right to ask him about his work and who he talks with

if he becomes angry and irritable its because he feels guilty and is hiding something

he is obviously not in this marriage to love you unconditionally

he is acting like a child and needs to realize there are serious issues here

maybe kicking his %$# out of the house for a few days might wake him up

if i sound a little harsh its because your post is the reason marriage in this country has
become a social event rather than a commitment before God

take the bull by the horns and reign him in or open the gate and let him "roam" the open pasture until he realizes his pe*&% is not his master