Oh the uncaringness and rudeness and just plain meanness of some! And unless she had been raped, too, she wouldn't have any idea what you would be doing. You are doing what you need to do to survive and move on. Yes, you could be huddled in your room on your bed fearful of every shadow....or you can be determined to live your life and not let those bas****s steal everything from you. They are mean, derogatory people who have no satisfaction in their own life and want to take somebody down. Praises go to you for not letting it be you! Christmas parties are always hard, especially with people that spiteful. You lit your candles and said your prayers for the people you needed to and wanted to and prayers are something personal and special, not something for them to be guessing at and commenting on. You did everything right. So why's it still frustrating, I know. Because of people like Sam and Charlene. Things already are looking up--you're here and getting healthier and happier and stronger every day!!