Hi and welcome to psychcentral. I can relate to your post. I had a very unhappy childhood and when I grew up, I didn't have many problem solving skills.

I found therapy to be very helpful. It helped me change the way I communicate and also see that I wasn't as bad a person as I had been led to believe.

I also went to a marriage counselor. She helped us deal with emotionally laden issues and brought us to a safe place where we could reconnect. I see so many couples who break up because they've let too much go by and built up resentments.

Again, it came back to tools. I was able to learn how to identify and then express my frustrations. I used to not even know I was angry for several days.

Best wishes. I hope this forum gives you as much as it has given me.