Hi,

I was seeing this guy. Things were going well. We were in contact A LOT at the start. He was even joked about marriage 3 times (e.g "Should we just get married") I think he said things he didn't mean! He was totally upfront. And gave me the wrong impression to what he wanted.

He then seemed to get distant a bit mainly via online/text/calls but when i actually saw him, he was fine and great! The sex stuff start very quickly (not good). We didn't always have sex when we saw each other.

He said that he is scared to get close to anyone. He felt we were to quickly. he said his last relationship ended very badly and he was depressed for a long time.

I think there has been a lot of mixed signals. I think he thought i wanted more than i do - he just wants to hang out, not label anything at this point. And im fine with that, but i dont think he knows it. I was very happy just hanging out. Just thought we'd do it more....

I spoke to him about it, but he made me tell him over the phone, and i didn't say everything, as i was caught on the spot.

We spoke the next day, and i think we agreed to be friends, but he mentioned that we can still have sex.

Few days later he contacted me and asked for a huge favor (massive) and opened up a bit. He said he doesn't like to tell people his problems and bottles things up.

When we catched up - and i helped him with his favour which he knows is a big deal - We seemed to agreed to be friends, But then he said "for now/not ruling it out". I feel like he's keeping me on a string.

Then minutes after, he still continued to rub my leg. And did a peck on the cheek, but then went in for another, but missed the cheek. It wasn't one of those pecks on both cheeks. He said "we'll talk soon" or "we'll talk about it soon"

The last week, he's still rather distant. He contact me on Friday and asked for a lift home. I got the message to late tho. So he obviouslly doens't have any problems in seeing me in person. Earlier this week He said he "just feel depressed" and "needed to get away from it for awhile" When i ask whats wrong, he says "im ok". He doesn't respond to text messages much anymore. Where he used to be really good. I guess he has a few problems - no job, no money, no car....

But there are things that he has said very very recently that tells me he is still interested. He is confusing the hell out of me.

Should i just tell him how i feel? how he's making me feel with his weird behavior - he was very different at the start.

I keep worrying about it and its making me ill. - im loosing so much weight

If he just wants friends, thats ok, but he's keeping me on a string. He might not even be aware of it.

At the start, he made me so happy. I was smiling for no reason! and i know he was too.

Should i just take the risk, and tell him how i feel, the confused messages he is sending....i want him to know im there for him too, coz i think something else is up too. All i need to know is there any harm in telling him?

Should i just go for it? Do i have anything to lose really? Is it better to tell him in person, face to face, or via msn or a friend sugested to write it down on paper and get him to read it while im with him.

i cant think of anything else. Its always on my mind.

I dont want to be dramatic or make a huge deal about it. Im not this kinda girl. Im easy going, but he's making me doubt everything.

thanks.

P.S there are a lot more other things going on that makes this a lot more confusing and complicated for me. Its too much to go into!

thanks for any advice.