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Originally Posted by ujaz
Tell him, guys arn't good at expressing the whole emotion thing. He might not even realise he's giving mixed signals. People are not mind readers either so speak up, say it all & more. Tell him not only how you feel but also how what he does affects you. Explane how what he's doing appears, draw out of him what he thinks/feels. Relationships are built on comunication, even friendships are, better such things done in person tho. In person there is time for silences calls don't alowe, a letter or email only goes one way. To resolve this is an interactive thing between you two that the monolog of email or letter don't alowe. Work on it if nothing else it will deepen your friendship if lucky might make for a potent love.
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Thank you Ujaz...!!!!
Ive posted similar posts elsewhere and keep getting different responses..like not tell him, just let him be.
Its affecting me so much. I cant concentrate, my work is slipping, im not eating - and loosing weight (like 5kg in 3-4 weeks. no exercise). I think its just from the regret and worry. I cant keep going on like this! he made me feel soooo happy at the start.
Even if he doesnt feel the same any more thats ok, im sure we can be friends, but friends dont act this way, this distant. Ive got friendshsips where there is no communication, everything is swept under the rug. Nothing is cleared up. I dont want it to be this way with him, coz i really do think hes great.
when i tired to speak to him before, i asked when i could see him and he just wanted me to tell him over the phone. it wasn't right, i had a bad day that day (at work) lol, and wasn't clear enough in my mind. I haven't felt any better. I need to feel better and i think if i keep it to myself i wont.
Thanks , i will speak to him face to face. The letter/paper idea was by a friend, and wasn't to sure which is why i came here!
Oh and i also think, all the confusion i am having is because this is the first guy i've been with. I am 23 tho, but ive never had a boyfriend. He was the first guy to show interest! lol. Ive got no experience with guys to fall back on. I am very shy in person!
thank you so much.