unintentional abuse? interesting theory. i believe that to possibly be the most difficult abuse to heal from. chances are if it's unintentional, the abuser is unaware and, subsequently will never seek atonement and/or forgiveness.

best thread i've seen in quite some time. extremely thought provoking here as to why it may be so extremely difficult to heal and/or move past. it makes me wonder about the abusers and actually how much pain they're aware of inflicting. does it make the pain less than that of deliberate abuse? does it mandate instant forgiveness upon awareness by the abused? does it matter in the end? the abusers who inflict unintentional abuse will more than likely never be able to own or acknowledge the abuse, thus leaving the abused attempting to heal with little or no validation or explanations. further adding to my own belief that healing must come from self alone...for self alone.

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