((((((((((NeyKay))))))))) I am so sorry I didn't see this until today. I don't usually go into the relationship forum and usually skip anything that is in there because it tends to trigger me, but I saw you had no replies yet and wanted to let you know a couple things. First off I'm so glad you found us here at pc. I hope you will discover a lot of helpful information and resources. As well as all that, you'll find that the people here are amazing! Also, please take the opportunity to read back through old posts, usually someone will have had some experience similar to what you are going through--you aren't alone. If you have any questions, please message a community liason or moderator. I'm not good on relationship advice but I do want to say that your husband definately has something going on that he needs to work through. Possibly your therapist suggested a seperation because he's worried about the emotional abuse, and the controlling. YOU are his first priority and you should be yours, too.