thanks everyone. yeah she hasnt called since. and he hasnt even spoken to her in weeks now. and it feels like, now that shes out of the picture completely, we have been awesome. even though i know he didnt want her back, i think it was still distracting. just because he knew how much we hated each other but he still wanted to be friend etc... like he couldnt focus completely on us because he always had to deal with her.

Honestly, I was terrified that, when I gave him that ultimatum kind of, he would choose her over me. and now that ive said that he needs to stop talking to her, and he actually did it, i feel so much more confident about us. which makes me less insecure about all the girls I see eyeballing him.

I think hes noticing a difference too. I think a lot of the reason he kept in contact with her before was kind of a control thing. Like he wanted to be that guy who had his outside life and his girlfriend life and neither interferred with the other. so i think once he gave up a little of his "youre not going to tell me what to do" pride he saw that she wasnt really his friend anyways. and he keeps asking me "why are you being so nice to me?" and i think thats when it sank in that if shes around, im not happy. if shes gone, im a better girlfriend.

sorry if this was rambling and long and annoying lol. havent been on in a while....

thanks again guys