Hi Lbien6,

I agree with others here that the shouting of your mother is probably triggering you to re-experience feelings from your abusive relationship -
are you getting any help dealing with this? seeing a psychologist or counciller may help you deal with both your reactions and the triggers that spark them off.

If your mum never used to shout and is now then maybe talking to someone would help her too - there are other ways of getting rid of stress that could help her better handle thing s and would not trigger you.

you said that you felt "mad and ashamed " that you were not over the abuse - you have been hurt and it takes time to heal - be kind to yourself - treat yourself as you would your best friend - if your friend told you of this situation would you be angry and ashamed of her?
its hard - we all want to be over it NOW! but it takes - heres that word - time - and its differnet for everyone - I hope things improve for you and your mum soon P7