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phoenix7 · Dec 19, 2008, 06:26 PM

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Originally Posted by mazer34

After 2 years my therapist has finished her work with me as that was her time limit,I feel I have not finished working on myself yet,so it feels unfinished work.I done nothing but cry in front of her today,I knew I would but tried so hard not too as I get so embarressed by crying.I just wanted to get a hug but I know your therapist is not allowed to,so I never got one

.I was a blubbering wreck,is it normal to feel this painful after saying goodbye to your therapist ??????I feel I have lost someone very special,I feel nothing but grief at this loss.

When I left T2 I had only seen him for 8 sessions - that was all i got with my insurance - from the moment i spoke with him I trusted him and that was major - Im sure the x files took their logo from me - Trust no-one! LOL In those 8 sessions we got through so much work my head was spinning - I still say he saved my life - I had 2 things left to do on my list then I was outtahere! I told him how i felt about my dad getting cancer and how horrible it was and how he went even crazier and the awful things he said and did - only to find out at my last session that T had cancer - he was very open and upfront about it and I put my best shield in place and wished him well and then totally fell to pieces on his front steps - cried all the way home on the train and for the next 2 days - (hadnt cried for 10 years before and not since)

felt terrible for telling him about my dads cancer - what if i had put a pic in his head of how it would be for him - that was unforgivable - here was someone who had helped me and i had harmed him also i think in the back of my head i had thought even if i didnt see him he was there in the background - somewhere safe and that was gone too - it triggered things from my childhood - abandonment, shame, guilt, it was terrible but i got through it and you can too - we are stronger than we think - the pain dulls after a while and we move on - slightly dented but still moving - I hope it gets better for you soon and sorry for the long post P7