mazer, p7 is right. could you somehow get back in touch with the creche and your T and ask those questions? maybe send them an email, so it's less confronting?
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Originally Posted by phoenix7
felt terrible for telling him about my dads cancer - what if i had put a pic in his head of how it would be for him - that was unforgivable - here was someone who had helped me and i had harmed him 
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p7 - can i relate a story to you? i'm studying psychology as an undergrad myself, and i did a subject on counselling last year. the lecturer told us how he found out he had cancer, and how difficult it was for him *at first* because he working for a cancer support group. but then he said that having that experience, living through it, helped him relate in a way that he previously only could grasp at with his clients, and also he got supervision for himself (from other therapists) so that his issues didn't interfere with the quality of care he was providing, and also so that he didnt take on his clients issues and read them into himself. eventually when he started treatment for his cancer he decided to take a break from therapy, because he knew he would not cope emotionally, but he since returned and said no one ever harmed him by being open and upfront about what they were going through.
i dont think you harmed your T either. i am sure that he would have support himself, and is wise enough to separate his experiences from your father's.