Coco, when I wrote my note I waited until everyone had gone to bed and sat in a quiet house. Then I started to list all the things that she had done that I was grateful for. From this list I combined and selected a few things were the most meaningful. Then I just wrote her a short note thanking her for these things. Your words don't have to be creative, fancy, or even spelled correctly...they just have to say how you feel.

Maybe not. We don't really know who are T's really are, maybe they do just throw our cards in the trash after we leave. I spent a lot of time this year working on a simple picture, I thought would directly and accurately convey to my T something important I wanted to say. For all I know after I left... she might have shown it to her office manager and said, "Look another one of my freaks gave me their amature artwork....Don't they get that its all an illusion. "

There are a lot of ungrateful people out there getting gifts that don't mean anything to them. If the card gets thrown away before its read, its their loss not ours. It is not the gift givers responsiblity to make sure the reciever appreciates the gift. If my T is just acting or doing her job, then... I just gave her a positive review on her work performance... she can add it to her dossier when putting in for a promotion.

BUT... if she is at all human and has days where she wonders if her life has meaning, if she has ever profoundly affected someone, or if there is a reason she should drag herself out of bed and get to work today....then my giving her a Christmas card was worth it.