Why didn't you worry about these things? With your 1st T, did you worry about them?

Last year I worried quite a bit about what my T would think about what I did or didn't give her. I am not completely over these worries but...I see progress.

In my Christmas card I chose to focus on sending a gift of gratitude.

One of the major ruptures that occurred between my T and I this year was related to silence. If you recall, this particular rupture almost ended the therapeutic relationship, but then as we worked through the misunderstandings, it yielded a major shift in the relationship.

I put the following quote on the inside of her card and thanked her for helping me gain a new perspective on silence.

“A room devoted to silence honors and invites the unknown, the untamed, the wild, the shy, the unfathomable— that which rarely has a chance to surface within us.” (Gunilla Norris, Sharing Silence)

I really hope she actually read this before tossing it. :-)