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Originally Posted by chaotic13
Why didn't you worry about these things? With your 1st T, did you worry about them?
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I think because I am secure in the relationship. I felt gratitude--we are nearing the end of our journey--and wanted to express it. I didn't really care what he would think, lol, it was more important what I felt and what I wanted to do. He is only the recipient. He can take it or leave it, but I am sure, knowing him as I do, that he will be appreciative. The other 2 years I wasn't my own person enough to do this with T, or even really to consider it. Plus, we were in the middle of so much stuff. Now it seems a good time to say thanks. With my first T, I never worried about any of this stuff because I wasn't attached to her. She was just a person I paid for a service--we didn't have a special relationship (I had no clue that was even possible or common or beneficial).
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Last year I worried quite a bit about what my T would think about what I did or didn't give her. I am not completely over these worries but...I see progress.
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It is really nice to be able to see progress like this.
That's a nice quote you sent to your T about silence.