I think this it an important piece. I think I now have a little bit better understanding of what a secure relationship is because I have regain at least some sense of Self. BTW...I still remember you giving me the recommendation to read the Patricia Evans book...WOW! that book was very important.

I found this comment interesting...because when I think back to the first few months of therapy... I had no interest in being attached to anyone. I just wanted to get my kids out of harms way so I wouldn't feel like a crappy parent anymore and move on. But there is not doubt that for some reason I cared a great deal about her opinion of me. ??? Maybe it was some transference thing or maybe one of my ego states liked her but I was too brain dead to realize it. Whatever it was I'm glad I struck it out.