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Christmas time often triggers deep places in alters. It may be the time of year has something to do with the abuse, or it may be that the teen is missing someone who was close to them and isn't there anymore. But please don't tell her she has to go. That will only increase the likelihood that she will hide and cause damage when you aren't looking. We have found that listening, or even sitting there quietly, or singing softly, or reading a soothing book, etc., will help the alter to begin to wind down and become less stressed and more able to talk about what is bothering them. Maybe suggest that she go inside, seek out a protector, and try to work on what is bothering her so she can then come out and tell the therapist what is going on in her world. Every part needs to be validated and heard, and loved for who they are--unconditionally. If you fear her, she will not expose herself. But neither will she get the help she needs. And you can't just get rid of her either...she is there for a purpose, and needs all of you to rally around her right now so she can calm down some. We will be here with you as you struggle to find the key to getting her to talk to you more. As long as it takes, we are here. Crys
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