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Originally Posted by kim_johnson
Long therapy breaks can be hard. I tend to have some difficulty in feeling attached and immense difficulty in expressing attachment. Sometimes a long break is when I feel most in touch with those feelings, though, and email is (I find) the least threatening medium for expressing those kinds of feelings. I think it is a nice thing that you did.
I know what you mean about the email response deciding everything. The first time I expressed attachment was by email and I felt the same way. He responded well. Kindly. Took a while... But he did. If he hadn't have done that then I'm sure I would have well and truely packed those feelings away and never expressed them again! I'm sure she will respond well, with the tenderness and kindness you deserve. Even though (I'm sure you know) that lots of people really are bad with how often they check their emails!
You hang in there... I think it was a lovely thing to do and that it will improve your relationship with your therapist :-)
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Thanks for this,
kim_johnson. It did help.
No reply yet, but I know that's just because she hasn't checked her email (she doesn't do it as often on the weekend). I'm more concerned about what she will say when she does reply. If she ultimately refuses to say what I want/need her to, then what's the point of continuing? So that I can feel bad and rejected all the time? Doesn't it make more sense to move on and stop putting so much energy into a relationship that is ultimately going to be unfulfilling?
Isn't that kind of the whole point of this kind of therapy, to make you aware of your needs/wants by having them come up in the therapy relationship, and then mourn the fact that they will never be able to be met, which is somehow supposed to be freeing? Well, if that's the case, fine, I've got it, they will never be met, and I don't see any point in continuing and feeling bad for any longer than necessary. I should put my energy into more productive places in my life, rather than just banging my head into the wall over and over. Sigh.