This will be a little long - it's my first time here. I am 38 and have been in a relationship almost 2 years. My boyfriend lives with me, however the house is solely in my name. He get extremely angry...you never know when he's going to get upset. He has 3 daughters who are with us a lot of the time and they are afraid of him. I tell him this, but he doesn't care. He blames a lot of his anger on his ex wife and the fact that he pays her so much in child support.. that he doesn't have any money (he doesn't), that he had a bad childhood...blah blah blah.
He told me that he was once diagnosed bipolar, but refuses to see anyone to get help. I find it hard to believe he's bipolar because he's only got the 'downs' of the disease - I wish there were a few 'ups'.
Anyway, there have been a few times that he has talked about ending his life. He told me today that he has tried but didn't have the guts to do it.
OK - so I know - he's not stable, and I need to get him help. BUT - what can I do if he doesn't want any? I want him out of my house because honestly, I don't feel very safe. He has never laid a hand on me or his kids, but something is telling me that he has the capability of doing so.
Anyone in a similar situation or have any advice? He has definitely NOT knocked my self esteem out of whack - or maybe just the fact that I'm allowing him to stay here is just that. I have no problem kicking him out - but I do love him and would like to try to fix things first.
Any suggestions?
Thanks for listening..