Hi Pookie2 and welcome to PC...

I doubt that you can fix him....it is almost impossible to do from inside the relationship...be like asking someone to tell you the color of the box while they're inside of it...

We know so little about the dynamics of your relationship...they are so very complex,,but based upon what you have shared....the most important part being that you feel unsafe in your own home...my advice would be...

To Love him enough to let him go...

Set some Loving boundaires like insisting that he see someone for therapy...get medication if it is prescribed and treat you and his daughters with respect.

If he follows through,,then see him outside the home on "dates" to get a feeling for his progress...you know him well enough to see any changes...

Take it one day at a time...but know that change is in his court...but he should know that there are consequences to his resistence to change...

IMHO..

Lenny