hi Kiya, ive been following when i have time.. T is right, boundaries are for improved understandings.. sometimes we dont know which boundary to assert until we've known an individual for a little bit of time.. though interactions we become more familiar with that persons typical behavior management style and then we can adapt... your boundary is no less important than the other persons, but sometimes we are in a place of adapting until we gain better knowledge of matters.. go ahead and follow the others and your T's advice, i really believe you are going the right direction..