(((muffy))) we are in places in life that we are at times called upon to take care of others... we will know when it is a must, or if it is something we can allow another to manage for us.. in our cases we have sat on both sides of this fence and made choices based on the experiences of our pasts that are intended to assist those around us who are going through a temporary stage of difficulty... it is when we enable our friends to build and gain strength that the process of enabling is a more positive experience for us best always...