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Originally Posted by seeker1950
Bebe...hunny...did you say this was your first sexual relationship? I know how sensitive this is....You wanted it to be for love, and you put your heart into it. There really IS no closer bond between two people than the act of sex, yet many people are users.
You say you are still in contact with this man "as friends"...Blah, and Blah! He's not worthy of your friendship, and you're wasting your precious existence by continuing contact with him. He MAY have been having sex with others while he was intimate with you. That suggests to me that you should have yourself tested for STD's, including AIDS. Sorry, but this is the harsh reality of being with such a callous individual.
I'm going to tell you as straightforwardly as I can...This man is no good. He is a user...You, yourself, said you had been "played," and that is the truth. You will do yourself a great service to cease ALL communication and contact with him. He is not a friend.
I am not extending this advice to you as a righteous judge, but as one who has been there. How many times I have wished, in retrospect, that I had just walked away, without discussion. There is NO discussion, no friendship! You deserve better. PM me if you wish.
Love
Patty
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Thank you Patty (seeker1950)
Yes. he was my first. it happened toooooooo quickly. ive regretted it since. i haven't regretted loosing it, or didn't even regret loosing it to him (not sure abotu that one now!) it was the way it happened. Killing me. i fell for everything
i had no experience. i believed him. big mistake.
yeah. appartently "friends"
i am so sick of meeting people like this. ive had friends in the past that just use you. im so over it. i can never seem to find a decent friend. they always betray me in the end... and im too ****ing nice to say anything. i get walked over.
Yes. i did think of that - about STDS. its been scarying me. im going to the doctors next week. As well as thinking i was pregnant - had symptoms - egh. i wasn't doing well! and the regret ive had - had that pretty since a few weeks after we slept together. hasn't gone away. guess i tried to burry it.
Yes. i do see that now. this man, is horrible. i cant believe i was so blind.
My problem is i can't cease all communication. I want my money back. Even tho he did this, i do think he'll pay. He even said when he asked (guess he'll say anything to get it right! im stupid!) but he said "
i could never screw anybody over, its just not in my nature. i was raised better than that".
he is like 3 or 4 different people.
So, until i get my money back, or its set up to be wired to my account (then i can check to see if its going in wiht out being in contact with him), i can't just stop. I wish i could. I was hurt by a friend before who i lent money to and lost it. I told him about this. he knows it was a big deal and said "thank you so much. it means a lot to me. wanted u 2 know".
he's a ****ing good actor! lol.
So. until thats set up. im affraid i'll still be in touch. i hate it.
BUT at least i know what kind of man he really is. i wont fall for anything he says. He doesn't need to know that i know what he's truely like and after.
But your right. he isn't worthy of my friendship. He says "i think your awesome" "ive never met anyone like you". damn lies. i'll never no if he really meant anything. He even asked me to make him a mix cd. Why would u do that? I know a mix cd, nothing big, but why bother if it was with a chick u were just trying to string along?
thank you for your words and advice. i appreaicate it. i wish i could walk away. i do. i really do. i do want him out of my life. he's messed me up. i have been so ill. (loss 5 kg in 4 weeks with out exercise!) but until that money comes, i can't. he doesn't earn much. but who knows what he's told me is true! lol.
thanks again.