Hey Man, I dunno...found this website after having a deja vu nite between my husband, his momma (whom lives next door) and her husband of 7 yrs. To me standing 4 my family and my convictions is a good thing but, it seems that my husband prefers i keep peace even if it means compromising...I married him after an abusive controlling husband.., he always implied he wanted to see me strong and stand but time and again its proved to be with the condition that excludes his mommy! I love him more than life and even have nightmares abt losing him. If i try to talk 2 him he threatens to throw me out which i can't bare the thot...He always defends his mommy but, i am defending him in every instance...he doesn't see and I'm ALWAYS wrong. I don't know what 2 do but swallow my convictions and be subservant 2 her and her husband (which she married out of loyalities 2 her sister whom has passed away years ago, as he was her fiance). He ALWAYS appeases his mom and disregards me even though, i only stand 2 defend him and our children's honor. Shud i just shut up & take it? I always thot he wanted me strong?!! I can't lose him...what do i do...i have no options...