Don't waste anymore time on this loser. I've experienced this sort of behavior in so many of my relationships including my current one. Men are just players. The older you get the more you'll see that. Forget the money-get him out of your life! My take is that men look at women as a 3 holed plaything, a cash register&a servant. They don't want anything else but those things.
In a way I can relate to how you feel about him being your first-I got raped out of my chance to have a first. I don't know what is worse-losing it to someone like I did or like you did. I say stay away from him-look at what you could have/should have done differently&learn from it. Stick to yourself for a while until you figure out what you want to avoid&what you want. Once you know those things, you're more likely to get someone worthy.
Stop beating yourself up about it-you didn't know what he was really like. I've had relationships that lasted for years before I found out all of the underhanded things these guys were doing to me. Believe me, I know that horrible feeling of being someone's rug to walk on or their personal punching bag.
Try to get over this jerk, figure out what you want&how to find it&avoid losers like this guy.