Hi there, I am female with bpd and I have been very violent in my past and in trouble with the police. I am still on their list as a "proceed with caution"! One of my first lessons with my psych and it was reiterated over the years, is action and consequence. My homicidal ideation and psychopathic behavior is directly linked to my experience as a child and bpd. If it were not for my son, I would be dead or in jail. My point is, no person has the right to take liberties or cause damage or harm to another human being. I am not insane, and as my psych pointed out, she would only testify to diminished capacity if I was to commit the most horrendous of acts. I would get so angry that I would black out and lose time and not remember a thing until I woke up in the psych ward the next day. I had to learn to control my rage for no one deserves to be treated like that by my hand. You are very brave to tell your story and you definitely did not invite that violation on yourself. I hope that you can work through it and not become too bitter as it seems that you have enough sadness from your childhood. He needs to learn some serious lessons about life and managing illness.