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yes, that is such a long time to have to deal with that, and bead heart go
out to you. also tell you, we teach others how to treat us. if we let them use us for a doormat, etc. then thats what they will do. if we let them know every time they say or do something hurtful that it is unacceptable behavior and it has to change..that is the first step toward getting them to change. its like we can only directly have control over and change ourself yes, but indirectly we can teach others to treat us with the respect and dignity we deserve by learning to stand up for ourselves gooder.
hope this helps and take care and stay safe
feel free to pm if you ever need\want to.

bead