Phyllis, I agree that confrontation only results in a defensive attitude on the part of the person you're fuming at... with not a very heightened ability to empathize with your point of view!

Sannah, I had a lot of issues, and I've been working on resolving them alongside trying to manage my anger.

However, that's not what I'm contemplating right now. Let me try and rephrase my concern. See, I've been wondering about these 2 words "Be Yourself". Most of my friends believe that it means you can say whatever you want whenever and however you want to. Which also means blurting out hurtful things to near and dear ones.

So I'd like to know how many people think that it's okay to be yourself and express whatever you're feeling? Are people who manage their anger not 'themselves' or 'real'?

I hope it makes sense now