ozzie, I know how painful that is. I too had an inconsiderate husband. I do think there was something defective about mine, perhaps a profound self-centeredness, perhaps a lack of caring or even an inability to care. I think it is a good sign your H at least said he would try to do better. I hope things get better. I know many guys don't like being "told what to do" by a woman, so this adds to their resistance on trying to be a better person if they think they are being "told" to be a certain way. I don't know if that is part of the issue with you. Sometimes they are able to accept a shortcoming in themselves better if they realize it by another means than their wife. It shouldn't have to be that way, but just something I've observed with a certain type of guy. So if there is someone else in your H's life who is giving him the same message, it might have greater impact.