My Mom is the same way. She deliberately didn't send me a Christmas gift this year, but I was expected to have one to her weeks before Christmas. My Mom doesn't want a relationship with me&is now trying to cut me off from everyone on her side of the family. She's embarrassed that I'm mentally ill. She's never been nice to me-never said "I love you" or "Good job!" when I was a kid. I can totally empathize-try to just let her go&find a surrogate if you can. All I did was be born&she hates me for that.