tomi.........for sure i feel that undercurrent.....lol.......you and i are so much alike .....i would be asking myself all the same questions..........considering all the outcomes..........and still i would probably go against my best logic......i agree with you as far as not deceiving your husband........that seems most important to you and not under discussion..........but in my "old age", i've become more of a risk taker and i sense you may be there also.........yes. the man committed murder......but he has also paid his dues.......he seems to know his shortcomings and so do you......my motto in my "old age"......life is short and the world can be very cruel.......reaching out with the hand of friendship..well.....lol.....it ends up in a handshake.......lol