Oh Sannah, I'm trying so hard. We arrived in Florida tonight and all the way here little snippy comments were made that were "just joking" or "just being funny" and while I can handle them, they hurt the girls. For instance, Tori lost her wallet the day before Christmas Eve. My mom bought the wallet for her because she didn't like the purse Tori was using. Tori had her driving permit and $70 in it (we had been Christmas shopping). I can't even count the number of times my mother has made comments about how it's irritating when you buy someone something then they lose it. I already talked to Tori about responsibility and she feels horrible, but it was an accident; so I made the comment every time that it was an accident and if this is the worse thing that happens to her then she's doing good! Like I said, I pretty much tune out the comments about me, but here's one that should go into the hall of fame: We were in the hotel and Kaity hugged me and said, "my momma" and Tori said, "So these 16 years have been a lie..she's not me mom, too?" in an overly dramatic funny way and Kaity said, "Nope, I'm done sharing, she's mine, only mine," and my mom says "You don't want to not share your mother with anyone. What's going to happen when you guys move away? If she doesn't find someone soon she'll be alone forever and you don't want that for your poor mom." Kaity said, "Nana!!!" and my mom said, "Well what? Look at her. She's not getting any younger or thinner!" Great. It's so hard to "not hear" those words.
And here we are at the place in Florida--a retirement community for "snowbirds" and I'm so trying not to be sad--seeing all the people..couples...who have been married for years and years and years.