when my T said that if i talked of self harm she would have to tell my onsite T about it - it stunned me and made the subject offlimits as far as i was concerned - I didnt want my onsite psyche to know I had cut myself and i didnt want him to know if i had further thoughts of self harm - I felt like she had put out a hand and then when i went to take it taken it away - i didnt go back for 3 months - it was a bad 3 months and eventually i went back and straight out told her how i felt things have been better since - there is still a point where i will not tell her how i feel until i have dealt with it and then I ask fr things i can do next time to stop it getting bad - this is the way i dealt with it - I hope you find a way that works for you P7