I am also troubled by a lot that I read.
I have had the same level of transference to several Ts. At the minute I'm in time out and I dont know if I'll go back again.
I find the transference opperates in me like an addiction and doesnt seem healthy. I can totally understand the expereinces people describe here, but where I dont connect is that for me it seems and feels like something really wrong, the generaly thing here seems to be that its fine.

One of the problem things is that I hear a lot of 'trust your T.' 'keep trying' 'tell them .......... more'. But this then diminishes a persons intuitive, reduces trust in the person's own truth and places trust in the other instead, - and this is the original problem many of us started out with. and how are T.s going to improve and learn if we dont challenge, question and leave when things arent right, and keep searching.
Ultimately, to trust and disclose feelings where the ethos isnt right is depleting to the soul, that is my experience any way.

I should say, that I have also had helpful experiences with my last T. that were so valuable, and yeah........'oh...%%$$"!(_+! yes, I miss him.
But in the end that too became all wrong, his attitude seemed to change.
If I could ever go back and be able to manage to face and to confront him, stand my ground, be 'on it', whenever something feels wrong, then I could have the best of both worlds. And that would be my wish.

In the meantime, I've gone back to my old fellowship, the wounded healers, the equality, the side by side approach. This too, of course has its imperfections.

One foot in front of the other............ for now.

thanks for questioning this whole issue IWMD. Courageous.

river