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Originally Posted by RiverX
One of the problem things is that I hear a lot of 'trust your T.' 'keep trying' 'tell them .......... more'. But this then diminishes a persons intuitive, reduces trust in the person's own truth and places trust in the other instead, - and this is the original problem many of us started out with. and how are T.s going to improve and learn if we dont challenge, question and leave when things arent right, and keep searching.
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This hasn't been my experience in T.
I tried to work through my stuff by myself for many, many, many years and it got to the point where I was having serious physical symptoms caused by all of my emotional crap that I didn't know what to do with.
T believes that therapy should be driven by the client's "internal wisdom" - so he is there to listen, to ask questions, to help me think through things, to reframe things when I'm just out there in my thinking....but the work in therapy is done by me, and he points that out frequently. We're definitely a team...and he encourages me to trust him, but more importantly, to trust my self.
As for whether or not the attachment/transference/whatever is healthy....I was talking to my H yesterday and he commented on how much our relationship has changed and improved since being in T (we're not in couples therapy - I just go for individual). I think learning to be attached and to trust and to be in a relationship and to be cared for by T is slowly beginning to change my other relationships for the better.
I do care about T very much, and I do miss him when I have to go a long time without seeing him (like now!!). And I also care about my best friend very much and miss her when I have to go a long time without seeing her. I think it's part of being human, and being in a relationship with someone we care about.
