I tried that years ago and my dad stepped in and was very angry at me and said, "what are you going to do...keep your kids from her? That will kill her. You know she doesn't mean any harm by it. You will not do that to her...I didn't raise you to just cut your mother out of your life." **Gulp** No guilt there. Today we went to the beach and we were all laying on a big blanket and my dad asked for something to lay on and I said I had been laying my pillow on Kaity's butt, but she got up; my mom said, "Well I was looking at that stomach thinking what a nice soft pillow it would make." I said "Whose stomach!?" Of course she meant mine!! Lovely. Then we saw a lady that was excessively--morbidly--overweight wearing short short short shorts and a bikini top and I said, very sadly, "Oh I hope I don't look like that." She was the only one there with me and she said nothing! I'm 5'10 and 182 pounds and do you think she could reassure me? Nope. The girls love her to death (ok, Tori does, Kaity doesn't like to be with her) and see what she does to me. If anything at all is said, she comes back with tears saying, "I was just joking. Everyone else can joke. I'll just shut up." OR, "Oh Marci! Why do you have to be so sensitive about everything?" I'll just get over it.