5 A's talked about things I have done with my kids and those things really work. My number one rule about parenting is CONSISTENCY. If you say that you are going to ground them from the TV, you HAVE to do it, and every time. I don't care much about their rooms, for me that is their space. They do tend to clean it when company is coming over though because THEY are embarrest, not me.

My old T had a suggestion that they used with his 6 kids. If they started bickering and fighting, he made them clean the windows, one on each side. lol

Part of this might be their feelings about the divorce though, maybe they need some extra attention now. Good luck, good parenting is hard, if it is too easy, then you aren't doing enough, lol