Hi. I'm new and glad to see you. Here's the problem. My sister is narcissistic, so I try to limit the time I spend with her. She's on leave from work, and is bored. Here's the pattern. She leaves msg for me: want to get together? I say no. She keeps asking; I keep saying no. She enlists people close to me to get at me. I write her a letter explaining why I don't want to see her. A few weeks later, she calls to tell me she's in the hospital. I feel bad. The next time she calls, I say ok, let's get together. And it begins again.

This time I said ok, then changed my mind after feeling horrible. I said I wasn't really up for a visit, could she handle it? She said, "whatever."

I'm waiting for the storm to come. Anyone out there have any alternative ideas?