as mny may know i am having relationship issue's with my gf now after 17 yrs of being adopted she just met her real mom so i can understand having to spend time with her real MOM more then me alright well what is bothering me the most is she says one thing but does another like last night she said after church which was at like 5 or 6 pm she would call me right well 11pm i call her to c wht happend come to find out she blew me off to talk with her MOM YET ONCE AGAIN well she said she would call after she was done with her mom pushing me aside as usual lately well here it is 2 am the next day she stilll did NOT call back so it is like she lied to me not once but 2 TIMES IN 1 DAY i feel as if we are losing all comunication between us ever since she met her mom things have been different between us we dnt talk as much nothing almost as if im ghost i love her and understand she needs time cuz this is a big deal to her i mean 17 yrs of not knowing ur real mom is hard but u shouldnt lie to the ones who love u and have been there all along pushing them out of ur life like the last 10 mnths i have done evrything possible to make her happy and bamb on day she meets her mom and begins to forget about me as the days go bye like evrything i have and am doing to make her happy means nothing to her and YES DONT GET ME WRONG HERE like i said i can understand tht all this is a big part of her life but what am i chop liver she is even doing it to her adopted parents forgetting tht for those last 17yrs they were the ones who raised her as there own child and loved her as i love her now i do my best to stay by her side but she doesnt communicate very well with me i understand this is a hard time for her and she needs space i even offered to let her go a couple days with out me talking her ears off and she turned it down i think she could have used tht day or so to think and organize her thoughts have a girls night out or something big thing is i feel as if im constanly being lied to i got to do this and that when for real she is on the fone chatting with her mom maybe once in awhile she actually does have to do something i can understand she has a life to and needs time and such just be honest about it an say u know i want to be left alone for a day or so i would understand and give her tht time she needs but HONESTY is the KEY to all relationships if u dont have tht u dnt have a relation same with communication i think we lack trust in one another sometimes any advice would be helpful thnks 
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