Hi melmac

I'm very sorry you're going through this.

I know this kind of feeling you describe very well. I was married for over 10years and with my high school (sweetheart) for 15years.

I loved him with everything I had. When he cheated on me with my cousin, who happened to be my flower girl way back in 1991 when I had gotten married. She was obviously now not a child no more.

Anyways, I turned numb. Was like my world stopped.

We had problems in our marriage. I didn't know where to turn. I needed to figure out how and why.

I went and read this book by Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, Adultery, The fogivable Sin. At this point I didn't know what my decision was or what I was going to do, but I needed to make sense of things.

I read this book in one night and I actually called this Dr. I looked up her # and I spoke to her. Went to therapy with her for almost 2 years.

This book helped me a lot. It may help you.

If you need anything pm me anytime.

I hope that you can hopefully get some peace of mind quickly and some relief from the pain I know your in. That will only come with time...solving the problem and a lot of healing.

Please take good care

Eva