((sabby)))) ive been in that place a lot lately so i can really relate to the feelings you have about needing/wanting peace and quiet and not wanting to have to become like your neighbor and yet, still needing to assert yourself for your own and your familys well being.. wish i didnt understand it so well...

i keep learning the same thing again and again... kindness always outlasts anger... anger uses a lot of mental and body fuel, calmness uses little... as the outbursters expend the energy, they may go through phases of loud and then louder.. the peaceful usually only need to outlast them until... well heres a story lol...

the village enjoyed its wild weekends.. it often gathered in the center and played music, wild dancing, and questionable other affairs occured backstage of the main events... they lasted for hours...

the neighboring village was quiet and meek.. they preferred calm to rioting... they hunkered down in the huts and waited while the wild bunch exhausted itself completley, to the last one, falling softly to the ground and sleeping there until the rowdy activities became hazy memories...

often the revelling village was short on supplies for various reasons.. sometimes it was water, others, it was food... the neighboring village always offered its assistance to the suffering village..

in time, the partying crowd grew wiser and began to shorten the weekend revelry and instead spent more time in the fields gathering crops and foods... the village health began to improve and the two villages became friendly neighbors.. it was a real chore at times and required a great measure of inner faith and patience from the meeker village... after awhile, they all became great friends...

best to you always