Yes, read the whole thread. Lots of different experiences. Lots of opinions.

Sorry to just flare but am so tired of DEFENDING the fact that I CARE about the person who is HELPING ME! WHY IS THAT SO HARD FOR PEOPLE TO UNDERSTAND? Seems pretty simple to me - I hurt, he helps. I miss him when he is not available to me - a seemingly appropriate feeling when you care about someone. He does not run my life. I do not sit and pine for him.

Too much media crap about dependency.

And you must admit - your orginal post was less than diplomatic...especially the subject line. Not exactly a "tell me about" kind of opening.