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Originally Posted by Flowerb
Yes, read the whole thread. Lots of different experiences. Lots of opinions.
Sorry to just flare but am so tired of DEFENDING the fact that I CARE about the person who is HELPING ME! WHY IS THAT SO HARD FOR PEOPLE TO UNDERSTAND? Seems pretty simple to me - I hurt, he helps. I miss him when he is not available to me - a seemingly appropriate feeling when you care about someone. He does not run my life. I do not sit and pine for him.
Too much media crap about dependency.
And you must admit - your orginal post was less than diplomatic...especially the subject line. Not exactly a "tell me about" kind of opening.
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i have to defend your viewpoint (maybe i dont need to?) because i felt the same way initially Flowerb (still reserving my opinion on it til the threads purpose is more obvious) cause it seems to me, and ive been off the mark many times, that there was a much kinder way to introduce the topic but i know also that we all do the best we can (i hope) in order to express ourselves without wounding others here....
i think the topic of attachments is a healthy discussion to have tho, we do at times need anothers hand, and no one gets through life 100% independently, i dont care what they might think, and when we do become attached in an unhealthy way, there are definite consequences.. when we are healing it is important to stay in touch with ourself and the world around us as much as possible.. truth and reality are hard to take for me at times i admit, but as i told myself a very long time ago, it is simple to decieve another, but deceiving myself will gain me nothing...