I'm in the same situation as you gf, I haven't seen my birth Mother in 17 years, after being put in foster care, then adopted into a horrific family - but that's beyond the point - I barely see my Mother, but she calls me every weekend, I remember she used to call me every day and I got so fed up with it, because I just never got a moment's peace.. How long has your gf been talking to your Mum for? I mean.. A week, month, year? Because I know it took a few months for my Mum to back off. She still hasn't now and still begs me to go and see her, just doesn't understand my financial situation as I live alone.

Has your gf been to actually visit her real Mum? That might help.. Maybe a day or 2 with her will help things and if you meet her too, after a while.. When things simmer down a little. This is what happened with me and my bf not long ago, so I can tell you now. It will get easier.. Her Mum, just wants to make up for the 17 years she lost.For the 17 years she didn't get to even have photos of her, or letters from her, let alone a phonecall. She wants to make up for the years of not being able to spoil her little girl. You know?

Can you try and understand that? I can see exactly where you're coming from, honey, I really can. But maybe just a little space for your gf and her Mum might help. Try and be there With your gf, not against her.. If anything, you speak to her Mum on the phone, just tell her who you are and such. It always helps to make Mum's feel accepted. I did the same with my bf and it worked wonders, my Mum's now asking when we're going to be getting married! lol.

I hope this helps

Take care

TPND