(((Katheryn & Dec)))) i dont see this as a whine Kathy, this is a request for support through what is a difficult time for you.. that is why we are here, to listen and care, understand, offer a hand or an ear, whatever we can do to help, for we are helped in our process of helping others, it shows and builds a community that we can contribute into, and receive from in the time of need we have of our own... time is my biggest consideration, not quality or quantity... i care for you both as well as the rest here, and i try to make time for everyone.. if you've missed my support in the past i apologize.. i am always available to you or Dec via PM take care, caring one