"Momma" said it exactly....she doesn't understand!! She....does...NOT...understand!! When she said that, a response could have been, "I know you don't understand, but you are not in my shoes, don't have my history, don't have my feelings. I know you don't want to 'tolerate' it in your house and I don't want to do it, so what I really need is your love and support. I know you think I can just stop, but I can't, and you telling me you won't tolerate it in your house and you don't understand does not make it easier." That's an ideal response, but not one that's likely to happen. What do you think about writing a letter to the family? That way you can get things out without getting upset or interrupted. I like the idea of public transportation or phone discussion. Is it possible for Drew to drop you somewhere maybe and pick you up on his lunch? I'm so glad to hear that Drew is working again. That has to be a relief! Maybe there is light to get your place in the future--maybe in the spring you'll be able to. Manda, you are so precious. Please remember that when 'momma' is using her words to cut you just as deeply as your scissors do.