Thanks Skymonk,

My abuser is my mom and she sent a card this Xmas. I have cut off contact with her 9 years or so ago, but she keeps trying to weed herself into my life. Like sending birthday cards unmarked from her, forging my signature to sign them up for free stuff at a place she was employed. Plus her mom (my grandma) who never was a part of my life, is all a sudden the "sweet loving grandma" who sends cards to all of us. It is all a power ploy, she wants to get us together. I have had death threats from my mom for my kids and husband. She wouldn't want to kill me because she wants me to live with that kind of pain instead. My brother who was 36 died a year ago due to results of injuries he got from the child abuse she caused. She is armed and dangerous, so I am not sure what to do with the card, because I don't want to set her off. My old T told me to steam open the letters, make copies for legal reasons. But I want to ask my T now, on what to do with the card. I talked to a lawyer a few years ago about getting a restraining order against her, but he said if it has been more than 7 yrs since she caused physical harm, there is very little I can do. Besides a protection order won't stop somebody who really want to harm someone or how is severely mentally ill. When she passes away, I will finally feel some peace. It is sad but true.