Gosh, Wants2! I hope not! Maybe it is among those of us who have been abused in childhood and marry men that carry on old family dynamics.

Both of my husbands have been abusive, although in opposite ways. The first one controlled me, hit me, emotionally abused me by calling me names and almost succeeding in making me believe that I was stupid and crazy. My second husband does it in exactly the opposite way. He never asks me where I've been, where I'm going, what I've done. He says he "trusts" me. What it is, in essence, is that he really doesn't want to know, get involved, won't make decisions. In short, he lays it all off on me, including his own personal responsibilities. By not supporting me, being involved, etc. he's abusing me emotionally, too. He makes me pay, or punishes me by his covert actions. If you can call it a good thing, he stops when I bust him on it although he claims he doesn't know what I'm talking about.