Hello Ladies. It's been awhile since I've been here. I think I've run into a lot of members in other forums since I've been back, but in case I haven't, I went blind eighth months ago and now I'm back with a talking computer, so please don't mind the typos as I haven't found backspace LOL.

A lot of you helped a lot in the past with issues I had with bf etc. Two months before I went blind we moved in together. What a blessing that I don't have to live alone though this, however I know I'd be ok if I did. Many of you remember the start of my relationship and some of the struggles I had. Our relationship is wonderful even with its ups and downs, and we've had plenty these last eight months. I went blind, then had to put my cat to sleep, my aunt died, and we found out bf's mom has breast cancer. Our relationship has grown stronger through all this.

My issue now is sex. Actually sex awas an issue a year ago too, and has not improved. I posted about this back then. He just lost interest...and new year's last eyear he had an erection issue for the first time in our relationship, and the anxiety from that has only gotten worse. We haven't tried since before I went blind. I've worked on this a lot in therapy because when I first went blind I felt so increidbly useless and craved sex and intimacy. I've since learned that intimacy is about so much more than sex, and told him that I used to be able to see that he leloved me me by the way he looked at me, and now I need more touch, which he does.

But sex....girls how do I quit obsessing about this? We've talkeda about it and he's told me that sex is not on his list of priorities, that he's going through a midlife crisis, doesn't know if he wants to stay in his line of work which he's working on a masters degree in, he's worried about mom and about me so he just doesn't think about sex. I don't want to be selfish and bring it up again but....I just turned thirty and I know that our sex drive increases at thirty....

I've been listening to Dr. Laura a lot the last few months and she's helped me a lot in my relationship even though she wouldn't approve, she was would call us a "shack up couple" since we're not yet married. I don't agree but she still helps. Today a woman called in talking about how her husband has lost interest in sex because he's going through some pretty bad stuff. I won't go into details because I can't put a trigger icon on, but its much worse than what we're going through. Anyway, Dr. Laura sayd that this woman's need to "get some" were not important right now...that she needs to love and support her husband through this. I totally agree and want to do the same with my bf, its just DRIVING ME CRAZY. So I wanted to come down here and get this out and get reaquainted with the women of PC.

Any suggestions? Anyone been through this with their men?

Hugs,
Rayna