Well, I don't know quite how to respond to either of your responses or how you think I should.

My post was not talking about any one specific relationship in my life, as I said, it is a pattern that I have formed and I've lost every friendship the same way, by smothering them that they felt that they could not breathe. In fact, if I recall without reading back, I mentioned that I haven't gotten over losing my best friend last year, so she is just one of many. So, I don't know what you think my post is specifically about that people think is so obvious.

Other than that, anything else I would have to say would be considered self-loathing so I'll refrain. I feel damned if I do, damned if I don't.

BTW, I had already said that I was in the process right now of learning how to not be so needy. I don't see the necessity of telling me I need to do something I'm already actively working on, it's kinda like rubbing salt in the wound as it is already in the midst of the healing process.

I know you both are my friends and I'm not being dependant on either of you to help me, I'm working on myself all by myself. Well, maybe that's not true cuz I asked for how others handle this specific situation. I guess I have to learn how to do things without asking questions.

Certainly not the types of replies I was looking. I know you both feel you are offering constructive criticism, I was looking for how other people have dealt with not getting closure when a relationship ends. Any kind of relationship.

Now, I feel I don't know how to talk with people at all. I'm at a total loss.