it's just my humble opinion but it was suggested to me that getting into a relationship early in recovery is dangerous business. jmo, but loaning money to another person new in recovery is also dangerous business.
so i don't feel that is god seeing how much you can handle at all. i think it's you seeing how much you are willing to risk in your sobriety. i hope you will not be offended by my honestly.
the reasons explained to me are these:
1. a person in early recovery as you are should be putting the focus on your sobriety and not other distractions. it takes a lot of personal work to achieve solid sobriety. taking the focus off your primary goal can derail you. some people even break their sobriety over a lover they have a fight with or break up, or worse. you cannot get better if you don't keep your sobriety first in you life. relationships, etc come later.
2. loaning money to a person new in recovery is often times enabling them to their own failure of sobriety. if i knew someone early in sobriety myself that needed money i'd ask did they need it for food, etc. if it was for food i'd drive them to a fast food place and buy their meal. i didn't loan people money for gas....i did once to a friend that had more sobriety than me at the time and she went and bought a bottle with the $5. i was devasted cause i had played a part in her getting the money for booze even tho that was not my intention. so money loaning is usually tabooed too for good reasons.
as for your sober living issue...you will need to decide what's best for you there. sometimes unhealthy things occur in sober houses and it may be to protect yourself, that a decision to move might be best. just do like you said and own only what you truly own.
hope these things work out for you. the most important thing to remember is to keep your "sobriety first" in all your affairs. without it everything you value will become worthless without your sobriety.